Do you ever catch yourself moving from one project to the next because the minute it gets too hard or doesn’t feel good any more you lose interest, so you move on to the next project or idea seeking that feeling of success, happy or accomplishment. Do you do this with people? When one person doesn’t make you feel good, do you move on to the next one. Or do you seek out that person who makes you feel good because they are always telling you what you want to hear? Do you seek out the person who is going to agree with your opinion and side with you against someone else even if you are wrong?
Corner 3 can have some negative backlash for those in your life. If you are that Corner 3 person who never wants to hear bad news, who never wants anyone to disagree with them, or who can’t take constructive criticism, the people around you begin to lose trust in you and lose respect for you.
These false good connections can come in many forms from retail therapy, sex, flirting, online gaming to food, hobbies, a good bottle of wine, to exercise. Yes, these can all make you feel good but the problem is that they only make you feel good for a short time and then you are back to seeking that deeper connection again.
Are you caught in a three corner roundabout? You start out in corner 1 feeling alone and seeking a connection then you find one but it makes you feel bad so you seek one of those feel good quick fixes and when that wears off you are back to that feel bad because it’s better than being alone and when you’ve felt bad long enough and decide to get out you are back to being alone and beating yourself up for making those same bad choices only to seek out that quick fix just to feel good again in corner 3. This is the 3 corner roundabout.
You are stuck in this loop like groundhog day and you know deep down this isn’t right for you. You ask yourself, is there anywhere else to go? If so, how do I get there?
Evaluate your current and past relationships with what you’ve learned here today. What relationship falls into the False Good Connection, Corner Three? Are you in a Corner 3 relationship right now? If so, visit my website: http://socialautie.com for a copy of the FREE eWorkbook for this relationship Series and follow along. Join me for more in-depth info along with Q&A in my Private FB Group, The Socially Intelligent AUtistic.
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The Power of the Other by Dr. Henry Cloud
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