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Autism and Self-Worth

Autism & Self-Worth

By  Maisie Soetantyo of Autism Career Pathways

        & Social Autie, Mind Your Autistic Brain

You can view the Live Instagram TV Discussion Here:

What is Self Worth? definition-Having a sense of self-worth means that you value yourself and having a sense of self-value means that you are worthy.

Merriam Webster defines it as…”a feeling that you are a good person who deserves to be treated with respect.”

 What does not define self worth:

  • Bank account or social status

  • Job title

  • Attractiveness

  • # of social media followers

What are some barriers or roadblocks in the life of an autistic to self-worth?

  • What we have been told from others in our life which has formed or defined our beliefs of who we are and what we can or can’t do.

  • How we view ourselves in the world in relation to others. Comparison trap. “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

How does lack of self worth manifest itself in our lives?

Second guessing

Putting other people's needs first

Apologizing a lot!

What truly matters and is a healthy self-worth:

  • Worth based on kindness, compassion and how you treat others.

How do we begin to redefine what self-worth is to us?

  • Begin by defining who you are based on what you know of yourself to be true.

  • Begin to identify and challenge your inner critic.

Simple take away from Maisie and Carole Jean for redefining

and reclaiming your self-worth:

Checking your inner critic- take a pause when you catch your inner critic

and ask if your inner critic is being kind and if what your inner voice is

saying is really true.

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